You think you have lost the girl of your dreams, the one you thought was the girl for you. This is a tough thing to deal with. Its particularly hard to handle if you know its mostly your fault that things went wrong. Whatever the reasons there are some things you can do that will make getting back a girl almost a guarantee.
Before you start on this process its important you’re honest with yourself. Why do you want here back? If its just some ego thing or you’re jealous that she’s started dating, its time for you to be a man and move on. If those are your reasons for getting her back you’ll only cause both of you a lot of hurt and pain again at a later date.
Its also important that you are honest with yourself when it comes to your own issues. Whatever part you played in the relationship faling apart, whether it was big or small, if you’re not willing to face that and make some serious changes in your behavior you might as well walk away.
Here are a few things you can do that should be able to help:
1. First of all you have to let her miss you. If you’re calling or texting her at all hours of the day and night …. stop right now. This non – stop harassment is a bad idea for a couple of reasons. For one thing it lets her know that you are there in the background if things dont work out and no one want to be the ‘plan B’. The other reason is that it doesn’t allow you time to catch your breath and get some emotional strength back if you’re constantly obsessing about her.
2. Have some fun. Do the things you liked to do before that you might not have had time to do when you and your ex were together. Spend time with friends and live your life. A word of caution though, if you want to get your ex back do not go around hitting on anything in a skirt. True, you may make her jealous, but you’ll also make her hate you and think that you’re like a jerk and not worth bothering with. Just hang out with your friends but don’t start dating or hooking up. You want your ex to see that you’re having fun but you don’t want her to think that you’re over her and having fun with other women.
3. After a while of alone time, contact your ex. Tell her that you still love her and that you miss her and you want to get together. Dont make it sound like some important meeting, just keep it casual. If you come on too strong you’ll likely scare her off. Arrange to meet for coffee or lunch.
Spend some time together getting reacquainted. This time can help remind both of you of the good times you used to share and can help make it seem like you really could get back together. If things go well you can ask her if she’d like to get together again but still keep it casual. Remember that this is basically like the two of you were meeting for the first time. You want to take it slow and have fun and things will go where they will go.
Good luck
